Master your emotions with confidence

The ponderings of a Feral Housewife

Issue # 71 || May 30, 2025 || Previous issues​

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Hey Reader,

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Happy Feral Friday 😎

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How many conversations have you had this week?

How many were satisfying versus draining?

What would your ideal ratio look like?

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If you'd prefer 100% of your conversations to feel satisfying—I don't blame you!

But the truth is—that would be setting unrealistic expectations.

Unrealistic expectations are a major cause of disappointment and mental anguish.

A more realistic goal might be 85% satisfying and 15% draining (if you're intentional about it).

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What about the conversations in your mind?

What's your ratio there?

Is your self-talk pepping you up ❤ or bringing you down 😢?

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The negative narrative​
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If I don't drop everything when a friend calls in a favor, I'm a selfish, awful friend.

I'll never be a good cook.

I'm such an idiot for making dumb mistakes (where's my brain? 🧠).

I'm a terrible coach.

I'm a terrible mom.

I can't do this.

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This week I've said every single one of those phrases to myself!

Awful, right?

I'm my worst critic, and I bet you are too.

These words don't just sting—they damage.

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Why self-talk matters​
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Your inner voice? It’s the most important conversation you'll have all day, every day.

Why?

Because we tend to treat our inner voice as gospel, as absolute truth, even if it speaks lies or half-truths. Helpful or not. Kind or not.

Our self-talk may swing between being an internal bully or a positive friend.

Who would you rather have live inside your mind?

A bully or a friend that cheers you on?

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Your inner voice is like a GPS with attitude. It tells you where to go, when to get there, and how to get there. But HOW it talks to you depends on various factors; like how you were raised. Did your parents, siblings, friends, teachers talk down to you or were they encouraging?

Identifying where those voices came from, may or may not be helpful.

What's going to help you more is learning to challenge that inner chatter.

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Master your self-talk, master your emotions.

Life is difficult, stressful, and anxiety-inducing.

Why make life harder by empowering a snarky inner critic?

Imagine going for a long drive with a bossy, demeaning friend? 🚗

What kind of journey would you have?

How much of that trip would you enjoy?

Would you go again?

Even if you got to your destination safely, your nervous system would be a wreck!

Your emotions would be in a wreck too! 😲

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Try this instead

(1) Challenge your inner dialogue by asking questions such as: Is this true? Is it kind?

Am I really a terrible cook, mom, or friend?

No, it's not true.

Not every meal I make is delicious, but many are.

I'm not a perfect mom or wife or cook. No one is. I make mistakes and I learn from them.

I don't need to be 100% available, all the time. I can choose when and how I help.

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(2) Write down a negative thought you’ve had this week (e.g., “I’m not good enough”) and rewrite it as a supportive statement: “I’m learning and growing every day."

Stick it on your mirror or phone.

Say it out loud repeatedly and retrain your brain.

Feel the shift? 💪

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It's your turn

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What’s one phrase you’d love to tell yourself to feel stronger? 💪

Hit reply—I love hearing what my sassy friends are thinking and feeling.

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Till next Friday adventure, keep that inner voice true, fierce and kind,

Anna

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This weekly newsletter is a labor of my creative love meant to inspire you to intentionally grow in all areas of life, especially emotionally, because what you think and how you feel influences everything. ​ If you're enjoying this newsletter why not forward it to a friend? ​ You can also send them a subscribe link: ​​​​Start Mastering Your Emotions with Confidence Today!​ ​ Heal your inner world to heal your outer world. ​ With love, Anna Celotto Creative & Digital Writer